I gave up on dating…and that’s when I found the perfect man!

I was in my 20s and I felt God urging me to do something completely outside of my nature.   He asked me to shelf dating.

Say what?

“Ummm…surely, God.  You know me better than that!”

After all, I am the gal that was chasing the boys on the playground in kindergarten, K-I-S-S-I-N-G them.

And first grade.

And second.

And you get the idea.

I was a boy crazy child!  Teenager!  And even mildly as an adult!

But it was as clear as day.  And I think God a rather wise creator, so I said, “Say what?”  And listened again…Confirmed!


Hmmm.  Now I was in a predicament.

Listen to His request?


After all, I was in college.  Young!  Having fun!  Fun involved dating, right?!

But it was as if His mantra was on a broken and scratchy record, “Give up dating.  Give up dating.  Give up dating.”

And as annoying as that sound is, the broken, scratchy, record…Its message stuck.  And I said, “Okay, God!”

I probably shouldn’t have thrown in an exclamation mark.  I am not sure that I was happy about it.  But I did it.

Guess what happened…I had a couple of the BEST years of my life!

I enjoyed my final years of college with my girlfriends.  And we had a blast—girl trips, adventures, nights out together.  Simple and pure fun!

And I did something else too…I spent more time with God.  And it was the best thing to happen to me because it was in my senior year of university that I was told I had a tumor at the base of my brain.

That’s a lot to take in when you are NOT a university student.

I had so many doctors’ appointments that I started missing quite a bit of schooling.  And I started slacking on my schoolwork.  One evening I had a professor actually CALL me.  Whoa!  Wake up call.

“Brooke!  Your project is 3 weeks late.”

“Oh.”  I said.  What else could I say?  I hadn’t told any of my professors what was going on.

“I will give you until Monday to turn it in for 2 grades lower.”

“Wow!”  What else could I say?  That was generous beyond measure.  And that’s when I realized I needed to get my act together.

I finished my project and received a C.  Bummer, eh?  Could have had an A.  Ah well.  Sometimes life happens.

And it was around this same time, at the end of my senior year of university, that I heard something else from God.


He must have said it because one day an extremely good-looking man asked me out!  How COULD I say no?

And then another guy, named Richard, asked me out for the very next weekend.  Hmmm…don’t know him well.  Should I go?  Tempted to say no.

But said “Yes” to both dates.

Wow—what a way to get back in the game, eh?

And this is what I quickly learned…

Just because a man is good looking does not mean he is interesting.  It was the most boring date of my life.  And we went skiing.  How can skiing be boring?  I love skiing.  And, yet, it was.  Boring.

And he wasn’t a solid Christian.  And he was a bit chauvinistic.  Seriously—had the guy NOT met me before we went on our first date?  Heck.  Not just me…any woman!

I think he was looking for a wallflower.  Umm…got the wrong woman, good-looking man.  Got the wrong woman.

My next weekend’s date, the one that I had not originally planned on going on—was fantastic!  After skating circles with this guy named Richard (ice skating)…and then sitting and talking with him for hours after, I realized that there are quality guys out there.  Richard?  Ah.  He wasn’t for me.  But he was a good man.

And that began the year-long friendship of Brooke and Richard.  It came about after 2 years of not dating anyone.  And then realizing that you don’t need to go on a date with JUST anyone.  No matter how attracted you are to them.  And it took going on a date with someone that I had initially dismissed.

The rest is HisStory!

You know…God’s.

Giving up dating.  It sounded impossible, and it turned out to be the best!

And, along the way, I discovered God’s best…Difficulty and triumph in my personal life.  And Richard-God’s perfect man for me.

I wouldn’t have it any other way.  And I wouldn’t trade those years of not dating for any other time.

God.  His ways are good.  And, despite our skepticism, we just have to listen to His direction.

I’m glad I did.