I have often thought exactly as this woman has so adequately written. This is a tough article that addresses bluntly the difference of unkind vs. bullying. AND she clearly states how not addressing our children’s situations appropriately brings more harm to them than good.
She DOES NOT undermine or excuse unkind behavior. She simply and CLEARLY states how there is a difference and it needs to be noted and children need to be taught how to deal with each situation appropriately for their well being and benefit.
There are so many truths in this, I wanted to underline them all. Since I won’t be doing that for this post, I will simply encourage you (again) to click and have a read.
Here is a quote from the article, but, please don’t take this quote and run. Click on the article and read it. Reread it. Read it carefully. Can you tell I really think it is needed for you to read it?!
“Someone can be insensitive, thoughtless, immature, mean and even aggressive without it being bullying. And it’s important to make sure children understand that. Here’s why: For the rest of their lives, our children’s happiness at home and success at work will be determined by how well they can navigate relationships and resolve difficult issues. If we write every unpleasant encounter off as bullying, we don’t prepare them well. At a minimum, we are modeling misdiagnosis…”
Here is the link: https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/parenting/wp/2018/08/16/not-all-unkindness-is-bullying-heres-why-we-need-to-teach-kids-to-differentiate/?noredirect=on&utm_term=.c8209f5d3b90
It was a great post for me (as a parent and educator) and I am certain it will be a good read for you, too!
Have a read and share your thoughts!
I look back to hearing from you.