My baby brother—who is huge is stature and life—celebrated his 36th birthday yesterday. And, if he is my baby brother, that makes me older than 36. Yikes!Here’s a picture of the three of us (siblings). My sister is a year older than I am, my brother a year younger. My mom should probably write a blog about staying sane while raising three fantastic (smile and wink) kids under 3, eh?!
Darby, Casey, and Brooke
Anyhow, to celebrate his birthday we all went SANS kids (impossible, really, since there are 9 between the 3 of us with two more belly babies on the way) to a movie and lunch. It was glorious!
The movie we saw. YIKES! Captain Phillips starring Tom Hanks.
Let me just say, if you have a weak heart, reconsider watching this movie. We all thought my mom was going to have a heart attack at the end. Good thing her fire captain/paramedic son was nearby 😉
After the movie, in the car on the way to lunch, Richard and I started talking about the movie. You see, when you’ve been married to a pastor for oh so long, many conversations turn into potential sermon topics. Topics that even include Michael Jackson songs (like Man in the Mirror).
This movie—it’s a GREAT sermon topic. And, ironically enough, especially since I just wrote a brilliant blog (smile and nod, friends, smile and nod) on How to Speak to Your Children (called Learning Tongue Control), it brought to light something more.
Yes, as parents, it’s extremely important how we speak to our children. But it’s also VERY important how we speak to others. Our words.
You see, and, don’t worry, I won’t reveal the movie to you, Captain Phillips’ words held a lot of clout throughout the movie.
First of all, he is the captain of a very large commercial sea vehicle. Men (I believe his crew was all men) listen to his orders and follow his directions. And when his position is challenged, he had to be strong enough to stand his ground and face his crew and still give them orders, which were followed at pivotal moments in this movie. And his orders were followed because he had earned the respect of his crew and they trusted his words—his orders—his directions. They knew that what he had to say was what was best for all of them.
Second of all, Captain Phillips, now, I am solely basing this off of the movie, used one of his most powerful weapons while encountering the Somali Pirates—his tongue. He learned to speak when appropriate. Hold his tongue when needed. And he learned to use words that were meant for instilling trust and confidence in who he was as a person.
Now, I really can’t say much more about the movie—or even Captian Phillips’ words—but I will say this.
We can all learn from Hollywood sometimes. And this is one of those times.
One: To be heard, we must be respected.
Two: To be respected, we must be heard.
Three: Our words are sometimes vitally important, life saving really.
Four: Our words are sometimes unnecessary. Meaning—there are times when as much as you want to speak, bite your tongue, it could save you a lot of heartache.
Five: Our words should always be well thought out.
Yes, we lose our cool with our children and really need to work on the way we tear them down or build them up. But we do it in other parts of our lives, too. With our spouses is one, with our family members is another, with our coworkers a third, with strangers in public places even another. Sometimes, and most parents are very guilty of this, in sporting events (especially our children’s) yet another.
Words, words, they’re everywhere! But just because they exist doesn’t mean that you have to always use them.
And when you do, think before you speak. Is what you have to say respectful, necessary, important, life saving, uplifting, and will your words keep you out of trouble?
It’s funny how tongue control can lead to head control which can lead to life control…When we’re outrageous—we act and speak outrageous, and life spins all around us.
And, usually, it’s the one little thing we have that can change the course of our world (yep, used a nautical expression there in honor of the movie)…Our tongue! Learn to control it, friends. Learn to control it.
Don’t let it take you out to sea.
I would rate the movie 4 1/2 out of 5 stars. Even if you followed the actual real-life events in 2009, like we did in Poland, it still keeps you in suspense the entire time. And Tom Hanks, as always, shows why he is still one of Hollywood’s top-rated actors. His performance was stellar. And, without giving too much away, there is one part where he is breathlessly sobbing uncontrollably. As a mom who has nearly lost her child, I think he did a fantastic job of portraying true raw emotion in the situation. Because there is really no substitute for those emotions, and yet Tom Hanks captured the moment authentically (in my opinion). It’s an intense action movie worth seeing. And the gentlemen that played the Somali pirates were fantastic—even without acting experience. They really deserve a lot of credit in how well made the movie is and how realistic it turned out—kudos to those Hollywood newbies.